Later Recovery - from the Recovery
Learning Series at SupportNet.ca - Resources For Your
Recovery is learning to enjoy life - without the use
of alcohol or drugs that alter mind or mood.
It is treatment for the condition of addiction - an
approach to the challenges of life - and a path to
Recovery requires us to learn - about the true nature
It may be personalized - but it has its necessary
Principles and its Ways.
The Principles of Recovery provide direction - to
the choices that we face each day.
The Ways of Recovery provide
us with tools - that help us to heal - and to enjoy
life on life’s
This Learning Seminar introduces the topic of Later
What you need to know about Later Recovery -
and how to respond to its challenges.
Issues of Later Recovery
The challenges to recovery are not always obvious
from the outset.
It is a path of learning about your self - about the
condition of addiction - and of what may be necessary
to enjoy a lasting recovery one day at a time.
If staying stopped was easy - there would be far a
few suffering in addiction today.
For those who have found a bottom to their addiction
- the pain of this moment will drive the effort of
But recovery is possible - and memories of pain fade.
One risk to later recovery is complacency - a denial
of lingering risk - and a confidence that relapse can
Support meetings seem not important. We are busy with
the pressures of work and family - and neglect our
Personal Program of Recovery.
Complacency is recovery on time borrowed from previous
Over confidence in recovery will also give rise to
false pride. We compare our recovery to that of others
- and tell our selves that we have accomplished what
they have not.
Pride compares, judges and separates us from others
in recovery. It lessens the likelihood that we will
listen to what they have to say. Pride indicates a
rise of self centered ego.
Denial may again set in. We forget what we have learned
about addiction - or that the teachings apply to us.
We come to believe that we have it beat. We are so
well recovered - that just one will be okay.
Tired from a long day’s
work - Frustrated at what has not gone our way -
Deserving of a reward for all of our effort.
Whatever the excuse - it seems like just one or once
more will be okay.
Without a day to day Personal Program of Recovery
- without mindfulness of the true nature of our condition
- we forget traditional wisdom of recovery - that One
is Too Many - and A Thousand Not Enough.
It is not that we want to dwell on the sickness within
our past. But neither do we want to forget about the
consequences and problems of our previous addiction.
Family or friends do not always understand the lingering
or recurrent risk of addiction.
They may want or need to believe that you will not
Or worse, they may believe that it is now safe for
you to use or to drink - Just a little or Just
This is a particular risk during holiday season -
a party or special occasion.
The importance of attending to group - of connecting
with others in recovery - is that they know the condition
of addiction - and the signs of relapse risk.
One who has been there can easily recognize of complacency,
pride, self pity or blame.
And recovery supports know to not ignore such signs.
Other Challenges and Choices
Without daily attention to our state of recovery -
old habits of mind and feeling may recur.
And such a condition is not always apparent - until
a time of conflict or crisis.
It is one thing to persist in recovery when all is
going our way.
It is another thing to not use when faced with a tragic
loss, with justifiable anger or the pain of a loved
Life does not stop while we pursue our recovery from
But the better that we tend to recovery - the better
we are prepared to face a day when challenged by the
unpredictable events of life and relations.
And it is when we apply the Principles and Ways of
Recovery to difficult times - that the richness of
recovery grows - and its power becomes evident.
There are times well known to challenge recovery -
a new job or romantic relationship.
These are both occasions when we are faced by change
- by stressful or intense feeling - or by a need to fit
in or to impress another.
It is easy to lose perspective in a busy and pressured
And a romantic infatuation can pull the most centered
person off of their balance.
Traditional experience suggests to not enter a new
romantic relationship during the first year of addiction
This is simply to say that it is best to gain a stable
foothold in health - before taking on the additional
pressures, joy and strain of a new romantic relationship.
There is no guarantee that all in life will go smoothly
But there is always a guaranteed way to make things
Bottom line is should you find your self in a position
where to use seems the only way to cope - it is time
to get out - and to ask for help from the nearest recovery
Regardless of time in recovery - Ask for help in the
morning - Give thanks at night - and Do what you need
to do in between.
The greatest risk in Later Recovery - is that we forget
the lessons of earlier recovery.
Personal issues of complacency and pride take hold.
Life happens - and not always the way that we wish.
Attend to Your Personal Program of Recovery - when
life is going well and when it is not.
The richness and the power
of recovery will grow when we apply its Principles
and Ways to the challenges of our life.
You have now reached the end of Later Recovery.
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www.SupportNet.ca - Resources for Your Recovery.