Mind and Feeling - from the Health and
Healing Series at SupportNet.ca - Resources for Your
Recovery is learning to enjoy life - without the
use of alcohol or drugs that alter mind or mood.
It is treatment for the condition of addiction -
an approach to the challenges of life - and a path
to personal growth.
Recovery requires us to learn - about the true nature
It may be personalized - but it has its necessary
Principles and its Ways.
The Principles of Recovery provide direction - to
the choices that we face each day.
The Ways of Recovery provide
us with tools - that help us to heal - and to enjoy
life on life’s
This Learning Seminar introduces the topic - Habits
of Mind and Feeling -
How to understand - and break free - from the mental
habits that stress our day.
Habit refers to something that we have done many
times before - and that we can now do routinely -
without needing to think through each of its steps.
It is an over learned behavior that has printed
its pattern within our body and brain - like typing
on a keyboard - riding a bicycle or driving a car.
Habits develop for the sole reason that we do the
same thing over and again.
They do not distinguish between things that are
healthy or correct - from those that are not.
Therefore a habit can serve us well - or it can
cause us a great deal of difficulty.
We learn our deepest habits as children - when we
first learn how to think, feel and relate to each
We may be taught healthy ways or not. But regardless
- these habits become a part of our adult personality.
It is these habits we are least likely to see -
and have the greatest difficulty to change.
It is important to remember that once a habit has
formed - we do not see the many parts hidden within
And once we have become accustomed
to a habit - we don’t even pay much attention
to its occurrence.
It’s like a building
that is made from bricks and wires and plumbing
Once the building is completed - we do not see all
of its pieces - we just see the building.
And once we have passed by
the building a few times - we don’t give
it much notice.
When we do notice the habits of our mind and feeling
- we accept them as personality.
Beliefs - Assumptions - Rationalizations and Expectations
- are really just habits of thought - that have taken
hold deeply within our mind.
They determine the course of our day - without our
questioning their truth in each moment.
Habits of reaction - and association - commonly
occur within our mind and body.
A memory comes to mind - and the same feeling as
always - spreads through our body.
We think of a favorite food - and our mouth begins
We feel angry and want to lash out - at our self
or another - depending on our usual reaction.
Habits of avoidance are also common - and can rule
a great part of our day.
To avoid guilt - we say Yes - when we want
to say No.
We snack on food - rather than taking the time to
understand our feelings of anxiety or stress.
Habits of avoidance also disconnect us from feelings
hidden within them.
The burning feeling of anger is unpleasant - but
not so much as the fear and vulnerability that hides
Habits of avoidance cover layers of memory and feeling
- left over from our past - and allowed to control
our actions today.
Letting Go of Habit
The first step to change any habit - is to see it
for what it is.
Talk with others - Listen - Journal write - Learn
meditation - Question - Consider and Reflect.
A break in the day and a
look inside - are the ways to learn - about the
stuff that is happening inside of us.
Notice the times when you are stressed - or struggling
with a difficult situation.
Take a step back - a few moments to take a breath
in through your nose and deeply to the bottom of
Let go of your breath - the tension in your face
- and take a few moments break from struggle.
Question your role - in creating your stress.
Have I set my self an impossible deadline? Am
I once again assuming - that others think the same
way as I do? Am I expecting too much of my self
- or that others will attend to the things that
I need? Have I let feelings pressure me to say
Yes - when I wanted to say No.
Take a break from one habit today.
If you know that you agree out of habit - or say Yes to
avoid guilty feeling - Just say No for one
Don’t apologize - Just
say ‘No -
I can’t do that. I’m taking the day
to look after myself.’
The only way to know the thoughts and feelings buried
within your habit - is to step out of its routine
- and to do something different today.
Just say No. Then notice how you feel.
Talk about it with a close friend. Journal write.
Take some time to just sit - and to question
your feeling. Wonder - why you let it push you around.
Learn the ways to care for, calm and to express
your self - and use these ways to face the feelings
that have been buried within your habit.
Attend to one issue at a time. Your confidence and
ability will grow.
It is by learning to sit with the feelings that
follow change - that we retrieve the power given
over to habit.
Unhealthy habits of mind and feeling create a great
deal of the stress that we find in our day.
Assumptions - Expectations - Habits of Association
- Reaction and Avoidance.
Take a break from one habit today. And learn the
ways to face the feelings that have been hidden within
You have now reached the end of Habits of Mind
Look for this and other Learning Seminars at www.SupportNet.ca
- Resources for Your Recovery.