The person I was - would always need to use.
This traditional saying reminds us how easily -
our personal vulnerabilities set us up for relapse.
I had to get myself out of the way - is
another phrase - reminding us of the importance of
personal change to recovery.
Personality is a mixture of inherited traits and
It is shaped by the relations and events of our
We think that we stay the same - but we are changing
all the time.
And there is nothing about personality that we cannot
We believe that things should be one way. Then something
happens - and it shows us things are a different
If we are at all responsive to life - then something
has to change.
Our beliefs about the way things are supposed to
be - are changed by the way things are.
The stuff inside us and the world around us - are
like two sides to the same coin.
We express our selves - and the people and things
around us are affected.
But the people and things around us - also affect
us on the inside.
Inside and outside are two sides to the same coin
- interacting and changing all of the time.
And it is in this moment - right now - that we have
opportunity for choice - opportunity to influence
our direction of change.
Ways of Change
We choose to go an easy way - that makes us feel
best right now.
Or we choose to go a better way - that takes us
where we want to go.
Sometimes the easy and better ways are the same.
But mostly they are not.
We choose to eat what tastes good right now - something
that fills an empty space.
Or we choose to eat what is healthy - and that will
build our strength.
We act out in anger - allowing the feeling to control
Or we rise above the pressure of the moment - and
grow in our ability to understand the feeling.
The things that we do have the greatest impact on
the way that we feel.
Steal something today - and feel the guilt of a
Steal every day for two weeks - and feel the shame
of being a thief.
Conduct yourself with honesty today - and feel your
Conduct yourself with honesty every day - one day
at a time - and feel the honor of recovery enter
in to your life.
Do things the same way today - and increase the
grip of habit on your life.
Do something differently today - and learn about
the feelings that are released from beneath.
The things that we say and do may impact on the
people around us.
But the things that we say and do will certainly
impact on us - changing us one bit at a time as we
go about our day.
Everything that we say and do - and every choice
that we make - leaves us more or less ruled by our
usual ways - more or less controlled by our feeling
- pushed and pulled about - or allowed to rise above.
The things that we hold in our head will also have
huge impact on our lives.
Beliefs - Assumptions - Expectations - The things
that we say to our self in our own mind.
These shape the way that we see the world - the
way that we interact with others - and the course
of our life.
Wander aimlessly within your own mind - and it is
likely that you will do so also in your life.
Expect the least - and it is likely what you will
Occupy your mind with the worst of the past - and
increase the grip of anger, guilt and shame on your
Use your mind to let go - to settle your self -
and heal a bit from the past.
A game we play is to neglect the stuff on our mind
- to ignore or disregard it.
But the stuff in our mind will express itself in
our life - regardless of whether we know it or not.
Notice the stuff on your mind. Question it.
Is this doing me any
good right now? Does this have anything to do
with today? Or is this left over stuff from the
past - the same stuff that I’ve heard a
thousand times before - within my own mind?
Learn to let go of the stuff in your head.
Use self talk, meditation and prayer - to settle
your mind - to shape its thoughts - and to exercise
Take the opportunity of this moment - to choose
the stuff on your mind.
And in doing so - take this opportunity to change
your self - a little bit - right now.
We think that we stay the same. But we are changing
all the time.
It is the things that we say and do - that most
impact on the way that we feel.
It is the stuff that we hold in our mind - that
shapes the world in which we live.
And it is choices that we make right now - that
determine the direction of our change.